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Grief and Bravery

These past two months my family and I have been navigating death and loss, one that came very suddenly.  It was as if literally Life pulled the rug out from beneath our feet.  It continues to feel quite surreal.  Emotions have taken me everywhere, from numbness to sadness, anger to acceptance, love back to love.  The peaks and the valleys seem a little less drastic, but they continue to come and go … especially in the quiet moments. 

I invite them in.  Getting consumed by life’s routines almost feels as if it is betraying what should not be forgotten so soon.  Still my heart knows that it won’t ever be forgotten, even if the mind becomes occupied.


I have also remembered how experiencing loss allows my heart to open to our shared human grief.  One’s own pain expands the capacity to be with other people’s pain.  Rather than just a surface level acknowledgement, I am in awe of people who have and are navigating loss of all kinds … and the courage it takes to keep showing up in life, carrying on with one’s responsibilities, meanwhile the tenderness remains.  The bravery that I witness is humbling, and at least for now I am less tempted to fall prey to my assumptions of what people are or are not experiencing.  There is often so much more than what we see.


Perhaps the heart breaking is also the Heart opening, the field of Compassion becoming a little less obscured.



10 Comments Post a comment
  1. Teresa #

    Many hugs. Let me know if u would like to get some coffee or tea

    September 3, 2018
    • Thanks Teresa, I’d love to see you,will connect soon

      September 5, 2018
  2. Nice post. I find one does not get over loss, but just gets used to it. Beautiful quote from Rumi.

    September 3, 2018
  3. I can most definitely relate to this, especially recently. Thank you for sharing.

    September 4, 2018
  4. Anne Heinen #

    Thank you, Sheila, for sharing this thoughtful and moving post about such a tragic time in your life. I really appreciate this connection you drew: “Perhaps the heart breaking is also the Heart opening, the field of Compassion becoming a little less obscured.”

    September 4, 2018
    • Thank you for reading Anne.. it’s vulnerable to write but sometimes I am drawn to putting it in words here. ❤

      September 5, 2018
  5. Bianca Unwin #

    Thank you for sharing, my family are going through a sudden and brutal loss, it must be incredibly difficult to write about xx

    October 16, 2018
    • Thank you for reading. I am so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking to experience, and writing and sharing it is cathartic for me. Sending you and your family love and healing.

      October 17, 2018

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