Many people may believe that when you really begin to listen to the deep calling in your heart and follow it, that life will become easier, challenges may fall away. In some ways this is true, but I don’t believe there is any human path without challenge. To be human is to experience all of this, success and failure, joy and sadness, comfort and discomfort. Yet following our heart’s path enables us to meet all of life a little more effortlessly. In this way, life will feel more aligned, in flow. In the face of challenge and human faltering, something will feel so right that we cannot dismiss it. Something will continue to flourish, even as challenges and doubts come and go.
In ways, I feel that we fall into our heartfelt path. We fall gracefully because our conditioning holds us back less; the conditioning that leads me on a perpetual path of self aversion in the guise of self-improvement, the conditioning that leaves me feeling restless and not enough as I am. Sometimes instead of doing the “right” things, it is about doing less and listening more. Slowing down and listening can become a deliberate practice of Being (an undoing of sorts).
As much as we may seek a well designed, fail proof formula to uncover our hearts’ calling, the path calls us to rest in more moments of not knowing than knowing. Courage and humility are essential. The path will call us to try and fail often and humanly. This builds character, grit and resilience. And because of the inherent challenges we are bound to meet, self-compassion is so vital. More so, we learn how to to celebrate the joys and triumphs, small and large, inner and outer, along the way. Life is not meant to be perfect, life is meant to be whole and lived fully.
I know less than more about how all this happens, but I am curious and I continue to explore. Kaylee Asbo’s words resonate with me. Perhaps they will for you as well.
A Blessing for the New Year
As the hours of darkness begin to slowly wane from the winter sky,
So too may the fearful places of your heart unclench their grasp on your life
As the presence of light begins to grow with greater sureness with each passing day
May your own courage blossom to open more brightly to truth and love.
May you break the invisible yardstick of impossible expectations
and learn that just as you are, you are enough.
May this be the year that you cease trying to march to an imagined ideal and instead, wrap your arms around the messy wonder your life really is, hold it close and do the tango.
Let this be the year you befriend your soul in its radical particularity,
not forsaking it yet again for the bland demands and cravings of the masses.
Instead, may you elope with the wildness of your own true calling,
marry your soul to its deepest longings and invite the hungry world to the wedding feast.