definition of Sophia: wisdom.
My girls are off this week from school so we took some time to reflect back on what their challenges were this past school session and some of their lessons learned. Often children have such awe-inspiring wisdom that we miss or forget as adults.
My oldest, Sophia, said that the most challenging part of the session was working in a team where some of the members were not motivated. Despite her trying to encourage them in creative ways, some of her classmates did not participate in the project as much as she would have liked. She said it was a very frustrating process.
I asked her what was the significant lesson she learned. To this she said, “I learned that sometimes you have to go with the flow and let some things go”. Yes! How often do we forget that not everything will always go as we think it should? How often do we keep struggling uphill and how much of our resources do we expend doing this? There are times in life where we work with challenge and take the uphill and meandering route. Sometimes, however, the more skillful thing to do is to accept things as they are and to work with circumstance rather than against it. The discernment to know which choice is more skillful only comes with time and experience. Even still, there will be moments we fall and fumble.
I find it can be tempting to forge ahead, to keep pushing for things to unfold according to my preference, but not all things are within my control. Actually, I venture to say that more things are not in my control than are. Sometimes the kindest things to do is to let things be so that I can begin to know how things truly are. This space eventually enables our own wisdom and insight to arise.
Sophia’s lesson learned is a powerful one and beautiful reminder. Thank you for sharing it with me, Sophia!