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Keepin’ It Real with the Captain

I have been with my dear husband, Herb (also known as Captain),  for almost twenty-one years now, married for fifteen.  That’s a long time and add two kids to that mix and we are your average American family.  I have found that the one thing that has kept our relationship real is the ability or at least the effort to continue to be vulnerable with each other.  And frankly, who really  wants to be vulnerable?  Vulnerability often means feeling unsettled and susceptible, and putting ourselves out there despite the uneasiness.  In the midst of routines and responsibilities, it’s often the last thing I want to think about or embrace.  Over time, though, I’ve found that instead of masking vulnerability with walls or busy routines, the more I allow myself to move toward it and actually share it, the more I feel connected within and to the people in my life, especially my husband.  Being vulnerable is being human.  Being human is being everything within the spectrum of good and bad, strong and weak, insecure and confident.  That’s where life is and that’s where the magic happens whether it takes us through heartache or joy.  Part of the journey is in softening the fear to go there.
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  1. Rosalie #

    Beautiful! For me, it’s so easy to be vulnerable to someone who I love and trust. You two are so gogeous todegther and If I might add so much youger long than the numers say you might be. Keep on keeping on!!

    May 4, 2012
    • Vulnerability is hard for me sometimes the more I love someone, because I think I care more the way they may respond to it. Hope you are well Rosalie 🙂 xo

      May 5, 2012
  2. Did yall meet as babies? 21 years is unheard of these days. 🙂 vulnerability really is a wonderful quality to share in a relationship. Here’s to another 21 years and more!

    May 4, 2012

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