Living by our Hearts
A point of conflict with my spouse, whom I’ll say I love dearly, motivated me to write this post; to question our need to define things in terms of absolutes: right and wrong, good and bad. What makes us want to delineate life in such black and white terms when most of life falls into that grey area? What is it about the essence of human nature that makes it so hard to let go of conflict, when the conflict only causes us more struggle and discomfort?
We have all gotten into a disagreement or an argument at some point, perhaps with a friend, a partner, even a stranger. And often we become attached to our notions of what may have been right or what may have been wrong. It’s these notions that prevent us from letting things go. In the end what is right and what is wrong is a subjective thing, not an absolute. And attaching and holding onto these ideas, sometimes righteously so, is what belabors the struggle in our minds. I have found, over and over through personal experience, it is more painful to remain in the place of right and wrong. It is a place where barriers reside, where judgement, insecurity and ego keep me removed from the more vulnerable, tender place in my heart. When I allow myself to step away from my mind and soften into my heart, to see myself in others and others within myself, I open into a more compassionate and peaceful place where notions of right and wrong dissolve, where you and I, in spirit, are one and the same. We are together in this beautiful journey, perhaps at different places along the way, moving with our own time, but ultimately toward the same end: to experience and live life from the open and serene place within our hearts.
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.“